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By Mark A Leon
Honor, Respect & Courtesy
- Shake hands firmly and look people in the eye.
- Hold the door for anyone—every time.
- Say “ma’am” and “sir” respectfully, not condescendingly.
- Write a proper thank-you note (handwritten preferred).
- Give a sincere compliment without expectation.
- Introduce people properly, including context.
- Stand when greeting someone or when a lady returns to the table.
- Treat elders with respect—listen more than talk.
- Show hospitality to guests, neighbors, and even strangers.
- Apologize with dignity and accept responsibility.
Culture & Tradition
- Know Southern history—the good, the bad, and the complex.
- Respect the military and veterans with genuine gratitude.
- Dress appropriately for every occasion (from oyster roasts to church weddings).
- Wear seersucker and linen at the right time of year.
- Know how to pick a proper gift for hosts and special occasions.
Social Savvy
- Make polite small talk without oversharing.
- Carry a conversation and ask thoughtful questions.
- Dance a simple two-step or a shag step.
- Give a toast with charm and brevity.
- Know how to behave at a dinner party—phones away.
Home & Hospitality Skills
- Grill like a pro—burgers, steaks, chicken, shrimp.
- Cook at least one signature Southern dish (shrimp & grits, biscuits, gumbo, etc.).
- Mix a classic cocktail (Old Fashioned, bourbon & branch, mint julep).
- Set a proper table, formal or casual.
- Host guests comfortably, with attention to detail.
Practical Life Skills
- Change a tire without panic.
- Tie a bow tie and a standard tie.
- Drive a stick shift (preferably a truck at some point).
- Build a fire safely.
- Give a proper handshake—never limp, never crushing.
Outdoor & Southern Know-How
- Fish—freshwater or salt.
- Clean and cook a fish after catching it.
- Know basic boating safety and how to handle a small craft.
- Shoot responsibly and understand gun safety.
- Navigate without GPS—at least locally.
- Identify Southern wildlife (snakes especially).
- Garden or grow something—herbs, tomatoes, flowers.
- Handle summer heat with patience and humor.
Character & Community
- Volunteer and give back to the community.
- Be loyal to friends and family.
- Offer help before being asked—carry bags, fix issues, support friends.
- Tell a great story with humor and timing.
- Keep confidences—discretion is a quiet virtue.
- Stand up for others—especially those treated unfairly.
- Practice patience—in traffic, lines, and life.
Personal Style & Grooming
- Keep boots polished and clothes well-fitted.
- Maintain good grooming, including beard and hair.
- Wear cologne lightly, never overpowering.
Love, Loyalty & Integrity
- Treat women with respect, as equals, with warmth and sincerity.
- Keep your word—a Southern gentleman’s reputation is built on it.
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